Are there things you know you would like to improve about yourself, but you haven't been able to find the time to focus on them?
Do you ever feel that your life could be more fulfilling? Do you wish that your relationships or work was more satisfying? Is it hard to figure out exactly what feels missing, but you have a nagging sense that something is amiss? Perhaps you could use a space that is just your own to explore your feelings and thoughts about how you are doing? Do you often say “I’ll think about that tomorrow," yet tomorrow becomes years later, or not at all?
What lights you up inside?
All of us could benefit from taking the time to examine what is working well and not so well in our lives. Most of us could use a little tune-up at times. Some of us provide “preventative maintenance” on our cars, while others take vitamins and go to the gym to prevent future health issues. How many of us engage in preventative maintenance for our own personal development? Personal growth can be focused on any facet of your life- social, romantic, and family relationships, work/career, physical or financial health. It includes improving relationships, making a change you have always wanted to make, or having a space for you to dream about what you want for your future. Many of us do not have the emotional space or energy to engage in self examination alone. Some of us find the idea of exploring our sometimes hidden or secret wants and insecurities overwhelming. If so, personal growth counseling might be helpful for you.
Get to know yourself
How well do you know yourself? Many of us have not had the opportunity to pause and become connected to our true wants and needs. We are often rushing through our lives and running to achieve the next big "thing" that is expected of us. This might be finishing school, getting a better job, finding a good romantic partner, or having kids. What are my values? What do I like? What kind of people do I like to be around? When do I feel like my best self? When do I feel the most alive and bright? What do I want to do with my life? These are questions that are easy to defer…to next week, next month, next year. As time passes, it’s easy to get lost in the monotony of our lives, our schedules, and our habits.
You may wish to consider a “check-up” so to speak on your own personal development. It can be quite helpful to talk with a therapist about what’s important to you, what you value, who you are, and who you want to be. This journey could confirm what you already know about yourself in an empowering way that enables you to claim your identity with more confidence. It could also connect you to new possibilities and help you achieve the change you have always wished for.
There's always a reason to put it off...
“If it isn't broken, don’t fix it.”
Many people wonder what is the point of going to therapy if things are going well. We would not suggest that everyone “needs” therapy. However, we do believe that everyone could benefit from checking in with themselves and having the space to connect more deeply to their goals. Personal growth counseling provides an opportunity to improve your overall wellness, as well as explore some issues that have been in the back of your mind for a while. Is there anything you can think of that might enhance the quality and satisfaction of your life?
Will this mean I have to dig up stuff from the past?
Not necessarily. Although a therapist will obtain some information about your personal background (family, schooling, career, etc.), we don’t believe in unnecessarily focusing on the past if it’s not relevant to the present. That being said, at times, some earlier life experiences may be directly relevant. You and your therapist can work together and determine what would be most helpful for you.
It just seems kind of selfish to spend so much time and money on myself if nothing is “wrong.”
Our culture is not always supportive of healthy self-care endeavors. Constant marketing through commercials, social media and billboards promises us "quick fixes" through products we don’t need, can’t afford, and are unhealthy for our bodies. However, personal growth counseling can actually help you make lasting changes. Working with a therapist to examine your life, values, and dreams, can connect you to greater life satisfaction. Despite the messages that we have all received about focusing on others rather than ourselves, you are worth the time and money to spend on yourself. If you can become more in sync with yourself, how much more connected might you be with your family, friends, vocation, and other responsibilities?
If you are considering counseling for your own personal growth, feel free to call us. We are happy to answer any questions you might have and to schedule an appointment with you if you are interested.